Planning Your Perfect Wedding
Wedding Planning Suggestions From My Weddings
Planning a wedding is seen as one of the most stressful things in life. It’s constantly ranked amongst the top 10. That’s why I’m sharing a few important tips on how to organise our modern wedding.
Are you now looking to plan a perfect wedding? Think it’s an impossible task? Fear not. I’ve been a wedding photographer for over 25 years now and over that time, as you can imagine, I’ve covered many weddings.
I’ve noticed that those weddings that run smoothly all have a common theme. While those that could have been better organised weddings and so don’t run smoothly are usually for a handful of the same reasons.
More than likely this is your first time planning a wedding, and you’re probably thinking ‘where do I start?’
That’s where these tips come in for you. As one of the most experienced wedding photographers in the region as I’ve been a wedding photographer in Birmingham since 1987, I’ve seen what stresses many out and discovered what they would have changed in hindsight.
But you don’t have to learn the hard way, as I’m sharing with you my essential wedding planning tips that will guarantee you’ll enjoy your wedding planning, the wedding day itself, and most of all, the years of married life together after.
More Planning Tips
1. Plan Ahead
I know some couples are super organised, and have been able to plan a perfect wedding in a few weeks! But, if you’re like me, giving yourself time to plan will ease the pressure levels. Most take at least a year which allows time also to save for those special treats you’ve dreamed of having. I’ve found when couples plan their wedding on average 12-18 months ahead, they’re the least stressful and best planned weddings.
Things to consider planning can include simple, but essential things such as what style will your wedding be: traditional or relaxed and informal? What colours will you choose? Soft tones or or bold colours? (You can check out the latest wedding colours in this article: Your Go-To Color Palettes for 2018 by Azazie)
2. Budget Sensibly
No one wants to start married life with a heavy debt, so be realistic and make and then stick to a budget. It will help you stay in control. Here’s a recommended formula for how much of your total budget to spend on different suppliers:
Reception: 48-50 %
Photographer/Videographer: 5-10 % (Find out the average wedding photography prices for different regions of the UK)
Entertainment and Music: 8-10 %
Flowers: 8-10 %
Attire: 8-10 %
If you mange to keep to the lower of the percentage figures you’ll still have some money left over which can then be used for unexpected expenses.
3. Keep a Scrapbook
Many get so wrapped up in the planning stages that they actually miss it once the wedding is over! So keep all your receipts and little momentos from your planning/shopping trips etc.
Take plenty of photos of the venues you’ve visited, dresses you tried on, cakes you tried etc. Then you can look back over these on your first anniversary to relive the fun you had.
4. Buy Wedding Insurance
With the average wedding now costing approx. £30,000, wedding insurance can help recoup these expenses should the worst happen and you had to either postpone/cancel your wedding.
Or it’d help you if a wedding supplier went bust or something disastrous were to happen to your dress, flowers, ring etc. on your wedding day.
Many find it’s a small price to pay for the added peace of mind during the time they plan a perfect wedding. Especially considering the number of weddings that had to be cancelled due to the Covid-19 pandemic.
Do you really need to do everything yourself? Friends and family would love to help out, especially on the wedding day.
Plan and delegate as much as possible, especially for the forgotten things like:
Who will have the instructions for how to tie the men’s cravats or knows the etiquette for which side the button holes or women’s corsages go? Who’ll make sure that the house is locked up before you leave for the wedding? Who is the emergency contact for the wedding should something need urgent attention?
6. Choose the Best Time
Send your invitations out on a Wednesday or Thursday so they’ll arrive in time for the weekend, when your guests will have more time and will be more likely to RSVP straight away.
7. What is Perfection?
You may think you know exactly how to plan a perfect wedding, as you’ve been planning it since you were a little girl, but remember to expect the unexpected!
Embrace things that don’t go to plan and you’ll find you’ll enjoy the day more. Remember too that “perfection” can be altered by how you view things. For eg If you look at a beautiful forest scene from a distance it looks perfect.
But if you go into the forest and stare too closely at the details and how each tree looks, you could get disappointed very quickly with the unsightly bark or the leaves that didn’t fully develop.
So, especially on your wedding day, learn to step back and look at the whole beauty of your day. That’s the best way to enjoy a perfect wedding.
8. Be Present in Each Moment
While your wedding planning will some time, your wedding day will go by very quick! So I always advise couple to take time to savour the day.
Plan a 10 min break during the day / evening so you can both step back and talk to each other about how much you’re both enjoying the day.
Or as one couple said: “Just try and take times out during the day where you put the focus on each other and forget and ignore everyone else around you. Plus do plan all the bits that are important to you beforehand as it won’t stop you worrying on the day, but it will reduce it.”
9. Do a Dry Run
During your wedding planning schedule, choose a similar day and time to your wedding and pretend it’s your wedding day.
What are the road conditions like? Do you need to adjust your journey times to compensate for traffic? Check local websites for any events that may be happening nearby/on route to your wedding. Call up local hotels to see if they’re aware of any special events people are booking up rooms for on your day. How will that affect your travel and parking plans at the ceremony and venue locations?
A good idea is to provide accurate online or printed driving instructions for all guests to know the recommended route to and from venues.
Consider doing a dry run for hair and make-up too, so you know exactly how long it takes and also if you need to guide your stylist on things you like or dislike.
10. Have a Plan B
Most weddings are planned during the summer when “the weather is at it’s best” (“Yeh right!” I hear you say)
But if it does rain, don’t agonise over what could have been, but be prepared to embrace it, as you’re marrying the love of the your life and one day of rain is inconsequential compared to the years of happy married life ahead of you both!
So although you aim plan a perfect wedding, remember to plan for imperfect circumstances, an allow for a backup plan in case the weather doesn’t play according to the rules.
Why not buy some white umbrellas and make it a part of the photos, as many artistic photos have been taken in the rain! Or try buying multicoloured umbrellas for the bridal party and plan for a splash of colour!
11. Trust Your Suppliers
While this may be your first wedding planning adventure, it won’t be for your professionals. So don’t stress if things start to go wrong, let the professionals handle it for you as they’ve likely dealt with more bad weather, stressed guests, straying scheduling etc. than you need to know about.
They the best way to get things back on track, as their priority will be caring for you and making sure you enjoy the day as much as possible.
Also, I came across a great blog post that I just had to share with you all, especially if you’re undecided whether to book a professional photographer to record your wedding, or instead ask a friend with a camera to do the job.
Can I add too that I know there are a few “professional” photographers who do a less than stellar job and quite a few amateurs who do a fantastic job.
But if you take a group of 100 professional and another a group of 100 amateurs, which group is more likely to deliver the goods for you consistently? I’ll leave you to decide! You can read the article here.
12. Receiving Line: Yes or No?
It’s been a long traditional to welcome your guests into the wedding breakfast room during a receiving line.
Instead, why not schedule some time to chat with your family and friends before the wedding breakfast? You’ll enjoy the time more, instead of only having a quick 30 sec chat during the receiving line.
In fact, if you have 90 guests to welcome, that’d take around 45 mins! Precious time that could be spent else where.
13. Step First Before Your Wedding
If you’ve bought a new pair of shoes for your wedding, make sure to break them in before your day comes.
You’ll be on your feet for several hours, so do you really want to be wearing a brand new pair of shoes and end up with blisters?
But still be prepared by packing a neutral pair of shoes in case a heel breaks or, with the best planning in the world, you still feel uncomfortable in your footwear.
14. Make Sure You Eat and Drink
You’ll get so hyped up wanting everyone to enjoy the day that you can easily forget to look after yourself, or be afraid that you’ll miss something if you stop to have something to eat and drink.
Don’t try to be everywhere at one. You not only want to plan a perfect wedding, you also want to remember it for all the right reasons.
Aim to enjoy the moments around you and let your photographer and videographer capture those other moments for you to look back over after the wedding.
15. Choose Your Dress Carefully
Perhaps you already know what the dress of your dreams looks like. Or maybe you’re open to suggestions.
Either way remember: You can get the wedding gown of your choice or have one custom made. But it is best if you work with one vendor for the bridal gown and the bridesmaids dresses.
If you are looking for sustainable wedding dresses, check out this article at SenseOrient which has narrowed down 14 best eco-friendly options that are both stylish and sustainable for your consideration.
Using a pro like Azazie will put your mind at ease. They are ready with all the hot colours for this year.
16. Assign Duties
Remember to be kind, thoughtful, and polite. Remember to thank them when they have taken their time and effort for you. The function of a bridesmaid is to attend to the needs of the bride. While the majority of the duties fall on the maid of honor, each member of the bridal party should be willing to assist. Whether that means mailing invitations, arranging flower donations to a nursing home after the wedding, or picking up your shoes from the mall. Ask your bridesmaids to help you and assign them duties as they have time to help.
Being organised for your wedding is not just a good thing, it is a critical thing. The organised bride has everything she needs at hand when she needs it. She is not searching for a necessary item that slipped her mind.
Be organised, but cut yourself some slack. If some little something goes wrong, you have two choices, laugh it off or ruin the honeymoon screaming and crying. The second option usually doesn’t end well. Life isn’t perfect, but you can be perfectly happy with a little effort.
17. Define Bridesmaids
Somewhere along the line, brides became confused about the duties of their bridesmaid’s. Your bridal party is made up of people you love and respect, who are willing to help you pull your wedding together.
This doesn’t mean they are to be treated like hired help. Nor does it mean they are to ignore their own responsibility to help you. Make your selections carefully. If one of your maids in waiting has young children, you cannot expect her to have time to run errands for you.
18. Honeymoon Online Registry
Guests may expect you to have an online honeymoon registry. This has been the trending way to gift couples for the last several years. The easiest one is the free honeymoon registry by Honeyfund. This is free and easy for your guests and free and easy for you. You can link it to your wedding web page and even link store registries to it if you want to. Honeyfund can be used to pay for events and activities that you choose. You do the work, and your guests simply select their gift and pay online on a secure site.
19. Wedding Photography
This will be the lasting record of your happy day, including the memories of your planning. This is why I specialise in a natural, unposed, storytelling type of documentary wedding photography. This means you can get simply get on with that start of your lives together as man and wife, while enjoying the company of your family and friends, which reduces your stress levels.